Someone recently asked me about my username. Surprisingly it was a girl that asked; Iamthatgirl? You’re that girl, Which girl do you mean? Better answer that carefully you know there are lots of kinds of girls you don’t want to be.
Why though, you know you’re going to get labelled anyway so what’s the point. I know I’ve said I’m not that girl so many times in my life, but this time I say I am that girl.
I’m every girl you tease or bully.
The girl you call too clever because she knows what’s good for her.
The girl labelled a rebel because she doesn’t submit.
The girl you’ve bitched about.
The girl who’s told she’d end up with a divorce thanks to her out of control tongue.
The girl that has to fight for her right which wouldn’t be given to her otherwise.
I’m every girl that looks in the mirror and sees flaws, that you point out.
Or the girl who’s identity is only defined by the men in her life. Either her father or her husband.
The girl you think is born to please you.
The friendly girl that gets called a whore and the quiet girl that you call a tease, I’m both.
I’m the girl that gets catcalls with her dupata or in jeans.
The girl that gets compared to guys, never as their equal.
The girl who might only be appreciated for looks not for her brains.
I’m every girl that hides behind the walls she puts up to protect herself.
The girl that diets, starves herself or who does squats and weight lifting to fit the image you call perfection.
I’m the girl that carries the feeling she’s not good enough.
Bitch, slut, tease, ugly, stupid, fat, flat, prude, fake, plastic,
Whatever you label her, you label me too. This is what I mean by I am that girl, now you know.
I’m my own person, I won’t allow being labelled to your liking. Not anymore.
P.S the image belongs to a dear friend of mine. Instead of using my own I chose to use hers which felt appropriate. Thanks Aruba.
Love,
Manal
Very powerful. I like that you don’t hold back and you say what’s on your mind. Keep up the great writing!
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Thank you so much. 😊 i like the honestly in Raw thoughts.
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The last few blogs I’ve written have been that way.
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Yes I’ve read your blogs. They have this calm aspect about them.
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Well thank you I think. No ones ever told me they were calm.
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There’s something about them. Reading gives me hope.
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I’m very happy to hear that. That’s my wish for it. I wish to be successful by spreading hope and love.
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That’s really nice 😊😊
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Durdanto…this is a powerful post lady…liked it a lot…
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Thank you so much! Appreciate it a lot.
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You are that girl… Who is liked by all of us especially on WordPress because of your powerful writings!😊😊
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This made my day! Thank you sooo much for your kind words.
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All the words I said were true and nothing you desrrve a lot more😊
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Bless you for saying that 😊😊
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Thank you, stay happy and keep writing😊
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Thanks and same to you 😊😊
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Egg xactly!
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Awww 😘
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😌😌😌
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Arlas? perhap you’d prefer some fine dedication to the Whitney Houston…. I’m Every Woman…followed by the Police’ King of Pain? have a feeling I’m smiling in a hyperbolic way…sniff the fumes! 🙂 it’s called b.s. and such is the smile. hopefully that’s not the only things you are.
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No dedication required since this came from my own little mind. But I’m sure I’m not the only one to think like this. All great minds think alike, they say 😉
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:)…what no crappy 80’s music?? 😉 DRAG! I guess i’ll have to “tiptoe through the tulips” which sure doesn’t in any way fit this sentiment set at all but comeon! I only know so much music 🙂
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I guess I’m going to have to listen to the songs then!
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there is an advantage in that. I must gentlemanly suffer a return 😉 heh
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Lol okay
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This is very powerful. I am glad you are that girl. 🙂
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Thank you so much. You’re so kind. 😘
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Can we add that BAMF girl that knows what’s up to the list?? Manal for president 2020 hahahah
❤️😎😇
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Hahahhaha sure that would be awesome.
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Sweet! Added 🙂
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Excellent post, and perfect name for your blog. 🙂
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Thank you so much 😊😊
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Interesting – I think we can all relate in some shape or form to your identities. Sitting we are stronger together – thank you for being you. 🙂
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Aww thank you so much for saying that. It really touched my heart! You’re incredibly kind.
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Always be true to you! 💚
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And pick each other up instead of tearing down. Xx we gotta stick together.
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I am that girl too.
Bravo, your piece is simply amazing.
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High 5 girl! 🖐🏼
Thank you so much 😊
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🖤
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You are perfect. Always perfect. 💜💜
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That’s very sweet of you to say. Thank you so much! 😘😊
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Real and honest post.
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Thank you 😊😊
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Wow, I could never realize all those meanings behind your profile name!
Very enlightening!
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Thank you so much 😊😊
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Powerful piece thanks for sharing
Blessings to you
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Thanks for the comment. 😊
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You’re welcome
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Never be anything other than true to yourself because that is how you shine in the darkness leading the way forward with honesty and openness ✨🌟✨
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True. Very well said 👍🏼😊
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Damn! I was a little shaken after reading this it caught me off guard, I wanted to say I m sorry I’m not sure as to why but as a man it just seemed the to be the thing do, too funny!
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Really? That’s some reaction! Wow.
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Bitch, slut, tease, ugly, stupid, fat, flat, prude, fake, plastic, …… This line provoked me to comment u have powerful appealing thoughts and emotions behind these words is outrageous dea…..
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Words every girls has heard at some point. Collectively they make people realise their effects.
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Indeed 😊
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Goooooooooooooooooooooood one..don’t compromise your own life and own time for anyone
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Thank you so much. That’s exactly the idea!
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Have a great day …princess
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Thanks you too 😊😊
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I like your hair style..do you always look like that as you look in dp
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Thank you l
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Thankyou lovely. No not always something I change my hairstyle to braids or side parts etc.
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Wow..then I have to see you in that way too
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Fantastic article and insightful point of view.
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Thank you so much.
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Well said, Manal!
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Thank you so much.
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My gosh so beautiful in it’s emotion wow absolutely amazing
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Thank you so much.
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True story but that’s humanly normal to assign labels or adjectives to others and it’s not just about a girl or a woman. I do that to men too and I have been labelled too at times. Though I am the same person but labels were different by different people. But that’s their perception. Live beyond labels. As long as you define yourself don’t care about what others say for that’s totally their problem.
Liked your thoughts and as someone said you aren’t alone in this, many people feel so.
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The fact that we believe it’s normal, is just sad. We need to move beyond it. I said as a girls point of view cz I’ve seen it first hand. I’m sure guys suffer as well but for now I’m talking one problem at a time. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
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This shook me a little.We have all been given these labels at some point of life.
Too clever because i can’t act all cute and stupid to please their male ego.
Too heartless because i chose not to show how am i affected by him but too fake when i express openly.
I am tired of these people around me who made me start to dislike myself.
Kicked them out of my life because i like to think of myself as a bossgirl.Salute to a fellow one. 😀
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Soluteb back for being strong enough to kick the blood sucking leeches out of your life.
And whole hearted agree with you about the acting helpless part. I could never even!
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Thank you! 😀
And i really hate when i see girls doing that!I search the floor looking for their self respect.
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Haha 😂 that was funny
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😂😂
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The words u used are often left for in a public domain especially by a gal…bt u wer straight n forward….
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I’m always straight forward with this stuff
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Honest and straightforward! 👍
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Thank you 😊
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Powerful and lovely ❤
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HI, one day you will be that woman who doesn’t hear those comments, or care about those labels. That’s the only great thing about getting older! Thanks for sharing this and for stopping by my blog and taking a look:)
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That’s really sweet of you. Thank you 😊😊
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👍👍👌👌
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😊😊
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I guess in the end we’ve all been “that girl” at some point
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Yes absolutely.
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you are generous of spirit & wise 🙂
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Thank you so much. Very kind of you to say. 😊
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I totally get you…. I feel like that a lot. Being judged is unfair. Sometimes I hide my feelings. If you visit my blog… you might think…’This girl has no idea of what I’ve been through’ but I do. I just want to stay happy on the internet and forget about my offline life just for a second.
Powerful words. I admire you
https://simplysilla.wordpress.com/
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Internet is a good escape. Specially if makes you feel good, but maybe someday you will use your feelings for your writing instead of hiding them.
I would never say this girl has no idea. Because we never judge by the cover. There’s a lot going under the surface that we don’t know.
I will definitely hop over to read your posts. 😊
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Please continue to be that girl. I look forward to discovering more of who, how, and why, that girl is.
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Powerful
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Thank you 😊
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Hi! I love what you love i.e., Literature.
#iamthatboy19
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Hey. That’s great. Hi 5 ✋🏽
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Wonderful!!!
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Beautiful and Lovely!Keep writing.
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Thank you 😊
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your post is so inspiring and full of spirit , thank’s for your amazing thoughts . Every girl should be proud not shy for what she have. you’ve made my day girl bcs i get throw similar issues latety if you want to know more about me you can go and check my post https://myexperincesduringlife.wordpress.com/2016/07/05/girls-struggles-introduce-myself/ thank’s again
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Hey, great to meet somebody with similar thoughts. I’d love to read what you wrote. Will hop over soon to read. Xx
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Ufff pagli rulaigi kia…
Sorry for being so sarcastic but you are selling women like others do.
And I wasn’t expecting this shit from you, I thought you are smart confident and wise to understand this cruel world.
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well, last time I checked, you’re a guy. Which means you basically don’t know what women face since you’re not one. Plus there’s nothing to sell here. Women aren’t stories to be sold for fame.
Also, saying no offence to somebody before actually offending is a very stupid technique.
FYI I’m smart, confident and wise but I still believe the world doesn’t have to be cruel in the first place.
Thank you for your comment. Hope you have a great day.
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Girls always find sympathy, yyyyy??? in this century where she claim that she is equal to men, have you ever think what a man feel when a girl harras a boy or men????
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This is not a comparison. I never claimed to understand what men go through neither have i got the right to advocate. I’m talking about what I do know, which as you’ve already read is about women.
No we don’t claim to be equal to men, in fact we are fighting to get a similar claim. We want to be equals. Which works both ways. If we are equal to men, men will be equal to us. Thus eradicating that competition that you brought up.
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What a great response to being that girl!!! LOVE it!
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Thank you x
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So true and powerful. We all are beyond lables either positive or negative
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Thank you. And yes indeed we are.
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What a powerful post.
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Thank you Jane 😊
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Cheers to being that girl you want to be
More than the labels others can muster
Beyond the words they say
Definitely that girl who will never falter! 😉
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Definitely. Cheers 😊😊
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Thank you for this beautiful post, I’m many of those unfortunately. Keep it up.
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